Are you an empath?
An empath is someone who feels what’s going on with the beings around them.
When an empath says, “I feel your pain,” that may be an actual physical fact.
A lot of spiritual people are empathic. While the gift of empathy can be helpful in assisting others, it can also seem more of a burden than a blessing. Children, especially, suffer with empathic feelings, not understanding the reasons behind sudden jarring physical or emotional upsets. Kids are just starting to figure out boundaries between themselves and others anyway. Throw in the often unconscious sensitivity to others that empaths naturally feel, plus the pure desire for others to be happy, and it can be difficult for an empathic child to find a healthy sense of self, or peace.
Over the years, I have taught many empaths how to deal with the onslaught of data flowing to them; to learn to use empathy as a tool to help others; to learn to turn down the volume of chaos and static; to “switch channels;” to tune into a finer frequency. My advice to baby healers was to follow the three-second rule: Three seconds of diagnostically feeling other people’s stuff was enough.
I did some good work. People appreciated it. The work bore fruit. Former recluses were able to interact with others without getting thrown off balance. Enmeshments were untangled. People who had been carrying other people’s symptoms were able to reclaim their own natural health. Empaths learned to discern the difference between their own feelings and those broadcast by others. All good.
Now, I see things a little differently. For example, I do not now encourage baby healers to tap into their clients’ pain at all. Rather, I encourage them to tap into their clients’ wholeness and strength and power. All healing is self-healing anyway. All a healer of any discipline can do is create optimal conditions for restoration, and then hold the door open for the client to step through. No one can force another through that doorway.
Getting a clear vision of someone’s temporal pain is not necessarily helpful.
(Unless, perhaps, you are unkind and insensitive and unaware of the struggles of others. In which case, it may be helpful for you.)
Holding a vision of another’s wholeness, however, can be extremely helpful to both of you.
In the same way, running the energy of brokenness or sadness or grief or despair does not assist or support another in their quest for freedom.
Love heals. Love is whole. Love is divine. Love is eternal. Love evokes the best, in self and others. Wholeness is our natural state. This is the essence of any “healing.” We do our best when we tap into, give our attention to, what is Real and lasting and Life affirming, Divine.
What we focus on, what we give our energy to, we amplify.
What we communicate, what we hold out, and hold onto, affects others.
I now believe that everyone is an empath. Granted, many people are still pretty unconscious about their empathic abilities. Yet ignorance of our own sensitivity does not change the fact that we are, by our very existence, interconnected. This is not woo. This is science.
Each lifeform broadcasts and receives. Again, this happens whether we are aware of it or not.
Think of it like breathing. We are each constantly performing an exchange with everyone around us. We have a symbiotic relationship with every nearby plant and tree. We have a shared experience with every animal and human nearby. And, via winds and clouds and atmospheric variances, we share our very breath with those on the other side of the planet.
Are we conscious of that? Most of the time – No.
Are we even conscious that we are breathing?
Lack of awareness, ignorance, avoidance, denial, resistance, … none of these human bastions of defensiveness can change the simple fact that we are breathing. Even if you hold your breath until you turn blue, you will continue to breathe. Eventually, the stubborn part that is holding back, resisting flow, will “pass out,” and the natural part of you will automatically take up the rhythmic exchange between inner and outer that we call breathing. Re-read this paragraph. It is layered in meaning.
We are all interconnected,
whether we like it, whether we deny it, whether we think about it or not.
Now, here’s where empaths have felt battered by this connection:
In the past, people who were sensitive to externals didn’t know they had a choice about what they picked up on or tuned into. Also, in our current consensus reality, people have given more weight and focus to the human broadcasts and drama. Thus, drama broadcasts can seem much louder and invasive. Metaphorically, it can be hard to hear the sage whispering truth in the corner when the buffoon is screaming profanity in your face or the dilettante is tugging at your sleeve demanding your admiration.
Does being an empath have to be difficult?
[Prepare yourself kids, I’m about to tell a “when I was your age” story:]
Back in the olden days, as now, there was a certain, very limited number of songs broadcast on the main radio stations. Those stations sold lots of advertising, and played what was deemed popular over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.
So… you could listen to what you were fed, with lots of equally repetitious commercial interruptions and insipid DJ banter…
You could tune in to what they called “underground” FM.
Underground stations had tiny bandwidth, and their signals were much quieter than the dominant broadcasts. It took an antenna, tinfoil, copper wire and some creative and determined maneuvering to tune in those signals, but it was so worth it.
Sometimes the signals from the dominant mainstream stations’ broadcasts would interfere with or override the underground radio. Yet, if one was persistent, it could be dialed in again.
Mellow DJs with gravelly voices would play entire albums late at night without interruption. Bands and singers and songs and even instruments that a younger version of me had never heard before, filled my teenage ears and hungry soul with delight. Lyrics with depth. Voices with character. Musical poetry. What a relief it was to hear something new!
I’m sure you get the analogy.
Will you apply it?
This planet is ringed with noisy broadcasts.
You are a broadcast tower. And, you are a receiver.
What are you broadcasting? To what are you attuned?
One of the ways to uplift yourself and everyone around you is to tune in to those finer signals. Will you raise your own makeshift antenna above the din and repetition and pull in something more delightful?
Will you tune in to Peace? To Love? To Joy?
Here are some tips that have helped other empaths do just that:
- Give your eyes and ears a rest from violence.
(This includes turning off “the news.”)
- Spend time alone in Nature every day.
- Spend time alone in meditation everyday.
- Unplug. Schedule daily and weekly times when you are unavailable.
Turn off your phone and computer.
- Take your time making important decisions.
Know the difference between what’s right for you and what others want from you.
- When you catch yourself taking on another person’s feelings remember this:
Receive vertically, Broadcast horizontally.
- Bless people, respect people instead of trying to fix them or figure them out.
- If you’re feeling your natural empathetic tendencies wanting to tap in to the energy around you,
Tap into the Divine. Tap into Peace.
- Practice discerning your own energy. Ask yourself questions, such as,
“How do I feel about that?” “Is that what I believe?”
- Practice the art of observing yourself. This will help you focus on your own creations instead of using others to distract you.
- Savor silence.
- Play with opposites. When you feel something unpleasant outside yourself, ask,
“What is the antonym for this feeling?”
- Learn to laugh at yourself. Wholeness is by its nature everywhere, omnipresent.
Don’t take your special gift so seriously. EVERYONE is an empath.
Some people just don’t know it yet.
- Turn your attention to adding to bliss rather than re-broadcasting yuck.
Putting this into practice:
Let’s say you’re in a public place and you pass by someone who is ill or angry or just “off” somehow. The old you may have unconsciously taken on that pain and sadness and wondered why you suddenly felt bad. The now you can bless, and choose something better.
Breathe. Tap into pure Love. If you are aware of an individual who is broadcasting yuck, then send Love to that person, silently, anonymously. If you believe in angels, ask an angel to tag along with the person and assist them. Don’t try to detect the personality’s sad story. Just send a blessing, then detach. Let go.
Unless you are specifically guided to interject yourself into someone else’s story, let people be.
It may help you to remember that there were times in your own incarnation when you put yourself through various states of discomfort in order to gain new insights.
If you feel guided to assist, help in ways that empower and uplift.
Remind yourself and others that we are always creating and each moment truly is new.
Respect other people’s autonomy and power. Love and let go.
You have your own story to create.
Put your hand on your own heart and ask yourself, “How do I choose to feel today?”
Remember that despite the human dramas we sometimes manufacture, we are all powerful eternal beings. If we can make drama, we can also make peace.
Be conscious in your own creations. Every choice you make for Peace, for Love, for Joy, makes more Love and Joy and Peace available for everyOne.
We each have far more effect on this world than we realize. Let’s be more conscious with signals received and sent. We can use the twin powers of attention and intention to refine our own broadcasts by empathetically tuning in to finer frequencies…with increasing frequency.
Let’s dial in something good!
Let’s listen to something better than the repetitious rehash of human hardships.
Find K-LOVE or W-J-O-Y on your inner receiver.
It’s time to learn some new tunes.
“In walks the village idiot, and her face is all aglow.
She’s been up all night listening to the Angel’s radio…”